How to Be Happy Even Your Life Is Turned Upside Down

When it seems as if your whole life has been turned upside down, it can be hard to see any light at the end of the tunnel. This is the point at which you choose between giving up and seeing the rest of life as liable to bring more of the same or you decide that, in spite of all that has happened, you will have a better future and you do have control over many aspects of this. The past has happened. There is still much more time ahead to start anew and find new sources of happiness.

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→ Accept the fact that no one can bring your past back to you or send you back into your the past. You cannot change what has been done. It can be very hard to forget the past, but by making a considered decision to put it behind you, you free yourself up to start thinking about deliberately creating a new beginning for your life.

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→ Choose to trust the world once again. Think how beautiful life is and how wonderful it is that you've had the opportunity to be part of consciousness. Tell yourself that things are going to move forward and that you will build a happy life again. Much is yet to be discovered, and the way you were following previously has clearly turned out to be an unfulfilling one, so use this as a chance to change direction. There is much in the world which you have not encountered yet and a lot of that is bound to hold forms of happiness for you.

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→ Do not make a decision that the world is against you. It may feel that way but the world is benign and cares neither that you succeed or don't succeed. It is up to you to take back the reins of where your life is headed and regain your sense of control and power. Tell yourself: You have the full right to live happily: that right is yours, no person in the whole world can take that right from you. You are the master of your own life, treat yourself the best.

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→ Travel. It is most probable that there are many places in the world that you have not been yet, too many people you have not met yet. It is very possible that you find the the person of your dreams or the teacher you seek is somewhere out there. Seeing how others live or simply survive can be eye-opening and life-changing.

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→ Get closer to your family. Share your feelings, worries and hopes with your family. Accept the fact that life and family come but once, do not miss your chances. Show your affection to your family and receive their affection with gratitude and love.

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→ Help other people. There is nothing quite like helping others to take you out of your self absorption and losses. Seek to be part of something important, give your time, skills and knowledge through volunteer work, giving to charity or mentoring others. Maybe the thing that turned your life upside down is something you can teach others about and help them avoid a similar situation or learn how to cope better should it happen to them too. Happiness is often found in giving of your time, knowledge and help to other people, charities, nature, animals, etc.

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→ Be the greater person. It's likely that when your world turned upside down, other people were seemingly at the helm of your misfortune. Bosses, lovers, spouses, the financial gurus, whoever the people are who were part of the mess you ended up in, are people you need to let go of. By forgiving others and not hating the people who have acted badly toward you, you stop carrying them in your mind. You release your ties to them and allow yourself to pursue a new pathway, free of their expectations, callousness, thoughtlessness or whatever else motivated their behavior. You are free to start over; in many cases, through your forgiveness, it'll be those people who remain stuck, not you. Leave your own anger and resentment behind.

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→ Change your environment. Avoid people who annoy you, socialize with good people who give you respect.

TIPS

→ Keep a diary or journal. Every night, write what ever you have done in the day or try to write short stories, make it your own fantasy world, and learn to admire your own work.

→ Set a a goal for your life, and work hard to achieve your goal.

→ Make timetables for your daily activities, try to organize things that you do. Being organized can overcome a sense of being overwhelmed, lost or in a mess.

→ Always smile even if you don't feel like smiling. It can help you to personally feel better than giving in to the blues. Yes, it is a struggle to overcome feeling down but that's what human beings are very capable of doing well––identify feelings and make decisions to do something about them.

→ Make lots of friends, avoid bullies. Bullies are hurting so much that they can not only hurt you with their barbs but can also reinforce the emptiness and futility you may be feeling about life in general. They need to find their own pathway to solving their own issues, you don't need them getting you down while you do this.

→ Read many books - if you can't afford them, join a library. Good topics to focus on include building resilience, using mindfulness, biographies of survivors, biographies of people you esteem, decision making and problem solving, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), anything you are passionate about to get inspired.

→ Be creative, think positive.

→ Always avoid thinking about the negative parts of your life and try being positive all the time. Don't mind what other people say, do what makes YOU happy.

Warnings

→ Do not trust everyone in order to make more friends.

→ Do not take drugs or do something wrong in order to be happy, they do not make you happy and could cause you harm and danger.